I'm hearing about this book series called "Shades of Grey". They are calling it Mommy Porn!!! What women need to understand is that they need to stop fantasizing about what they meant from men. First they wanted "Real Men" then they wanted the "Metro sexual Male".
Men aren't what you see of soap operas. They aren't what you read in "Romance Novels". They aren't what "Shades of Grey" portray them as.
Men are very simple creatures, they need only 3 things. Sleep, food, and sex. You have a 33.3% chance of getting right. If they are awake, you have narrowed it down and now have a 50% chance of getting it right. (Of course there is one act that will be 100% correct.) If a man is asleep, you can be 100% correct. Leave him alone.
Women marry men to CHANGE them. Stop that. Women need to accept men for who they are and stop making them into what they want. It won't happen and it won't make anyone happy. Stop fantasy world and get into the real world.