Friends (and not the TV Show)

What the hell is a friend? Please explain to me what a friend is. Is it someone who posts on your wall that they are you "friend". Is it your local bartender, who talks with you and comforts you? One who pours you drinks and embraces your soul in exchange for tips? Is the "leach" who hangs onto your very word (although she hardly even remembers you name).

The people whom I consider friends are those who demonstrate that they year after year they are friends.

C and D are friends because, no matter what happens in their life, they take the time to say hello. No matter how difficult their life is, they call me. They make an effort to be a part of my life. I also make a point to be in their life. It is never one sided. Nor is it reciprocal. I expect nothing from them, nor do they expect anything from me.

I get everything from them, and they get everything from me. I have not seen C and D in about a year. And yet they are some of my closest friends.

M is also a person I can call a friend. She and her husband live upstate New York and I haven't been in her company since her sisters wedding in 1996. And yet when I am feeling down, she calls me and we talk. We text and stay together. I will always remember her as the one who insisted I go to my prom. She dragged me there and we had fun as friends. We are friends today.

The third person I consider a close friend is J. J and I grew up together. We talk on the phone all the time. She lives in Georgia now with her husband. She calls my mother to say hello to her and we talk. Her mother and I share a birthday.

There seems to be only two people who even remember that I have a birthday. J and K and that is only because we share a birthday.

It may not seem important to some, but the fact that at least somebody remembers that you lived, is important to me.

K is also a friend but I am not as close to her as I am with C, D, J or M.

Then there is H and J2. H's father is also a Marine and they are they best. Haven't talked to them since Christmas. Wow...need to call them.

Friends are those people who share their life with you. They don't just post on you Facebook page.  

Bad boys and Gentle Men

Today blog is about women. Women who are fickled. Unfortunately my experiences have shown me that women do not know what they want. Some women will claim to be friends. But I don't believe that they actually know what a friend is. This one young lady that I've been talking to thinks a friend is somebody she gives drinks to and charges them money for. I call that a bartender.

Other women I have had a chance to meet are more interested in dating "bad boys". They will never change "bad boys" into "gentle man". Many I hear have had to have restraining orders against these types of boyfriends. They don't learn, they don't change, they continue their ways and date the same men.

There are many men who are kind, gentle, and generous. Open your eyes to them. They are out there and they will care about you. These other guys are pumping themselves up with testosterone. All this testosterone will eventually come out as violence.

Men in general are loaded with testosterone, but these muscle brained "bad boys" thrive on testosterone. The quiet easy-going guys, the ones you pass by all the time, the gentle ones that you ignore. They try to stay healthy, they try to stay happy. They deserve more of your attention then you are willing to give. They will try harder to make you happy. They will try harder just because they know that they not the "bad boys".

Good friends are hard to find. When one comes along, open your life to him or her. Don't push them off forever, because they will be gone when you need them the most. He will have thrown them away and hurt them. They were moved on and you will have lost out one a friend.Today blog is about women. Women who are fickled. Unfortunately my experiences have shown me that women do not know what they want. Some women will claim to be friends. But I don't believe that they actually know what a friend is. This one young lady that I've been talking to thinks a friend is somebody she gives drinks to and charges them money for. I call that a bartender.

Other women I have had a chance to meet are more interested in dating "bad boys". They will never change "bad boys" into "gentle man". Many I hear have had to have restraining orders against these types of boyfriends. They don't learn, they don't change, they continue their ways and date the same men.

There are many men who are kind, gentle, and generous. Open your eyes to them. They are out there and they will care about you. These other guys are pumping themselves up with testosterone. All this testosterone will eventually come out as violence.

Men in general are loaded with testosterone, but these muscle brained "bad boys" thrive on testosterone. The quiet easy-going guys, the ones you pass by all the time, the gentle ones that you ignore. They try to stay healthy, they try to stay happy. They deserve more of your attention then you are willing to give. They will try harder to make you happy. They will try harder just because they know that they not the "bad boys".

Good friends are hard to find. When one comes along, open your life to him or her. Don't push them off forever, because they will be gone when you need them the most. He will have thrown them away and hurt them. They were moved on and you will have lost out one a friend.

Going to Carolina

 I listen to this couple next to me.  And in the background is the James Taylor song going to Carolina.  The woman wants to go and they probably should.

I hope they understand what a minister does.  I told them that I was a minister and that there is a difference between Christians and Jews.  Christians believe in Christ and Jews don't.

Still me....still forgotten

I really couldn't wait to write this post.  I am sitting at a local watering hole and watching.  Watching people treat other people, pretty poorly.  There is this one guy who has very visible emotional problems.  There are 2 guys and 1 woman who are mistreating this guy.  They know he is drunk, yet they sit there making fun of him.  I just watched as the bartender trying to restock the bar had 2 cases of bar in her hand trying to get past this other guy at the end of the bar and the guy wouldn't move.  He was too busy kissing the bartender from another bars ass.  There are 12 guys and 2 girls in the bar.  The girls are hanging with the bad BOYS and are wondering where the gentle MEN are.

Wake up people.  Especially you women. Bad boys will NEVER be gentlemen.  You can't train someone.  They are who they are. Don't ever think that you will marry someone and hope they change.

And to those who are mistreating the other drunk individual...well what goes around, comes around.  Someday, you mat be alone, or get into an accident and need assistance.  God is the only one who knows your fate.  Don't ever say, that will never happen to me, because it might.